For instance, I have seen men complain bitterly about their girlfriends being too caught up with professional sports. Either is just as likely to be jealous. Either can be the first to lose interest in sex. And these issues are only a few of all those than can make love dwindle. Of course, most dating relationships are not characterized by falling in love. Most are not emotionally charged, and breaking apart leaves no mark. Someone who has been in love, however, can pine for the other person off and on for years. Sometimes I think they are remembering not only the other person, but the way they, themselves, used to be, when they were feeling exhilarated and exuberant and loving.
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I was most interested in what you had to say about couples who remain together after the passionate stage of a relationship has ended. We don't seem to have many positive paradigms for that kind of relationship, which is perhaps why you gloss over it pretty quickly. Instead, we have the bored, middle-aged couple who indulge in affairs, or simply live separate lives in the same house.
Another favorite is the hen-pecked husband and shrewish wife. What is love when the fire dies? Is it love to remain with a person out of obligation, or responsibility to your children, or fear, or simply due to a sense that you've invested too much to pull out now? I suppose there are long-married couples who do, still, feel some degree of passion for each other. It just seems like we never hear about them, or else we discount their happy faces as being just that: a facade. I have been married to the same spouse for 27 years.
However, it has been a long time since we have either "loved" or hated each other and for maybe the past 10 years or so I'd say we have just tolerated each other. Everyone looks at us as the model couple, proving that love can last, but as another poster mentioned, it is a facade. Yes, I have had a few affairs over the past five years and yes I will again if I meet the right person. However, I do remain in the marriage out of obligation, fear, and even laziness. So, I keep up the facade and probably will until one of us dies I agree it's considerably more complicated. Helen Fischer's massive research on genotypes and attraction.
It may very well be that there is no template for break-ups and each relationship has its own fingerprint. One girl may feel slighted she didn't get to go on a cruise with her partner's family, another girl might have dreaded such a vacation. Similarly, one guy might have felt angered by the mention of a former boyfriend, another guy would have laughed it off. Why would you start listing things with "1. The article feels incomplete and weird to read when reaching the not so wrapped-up end in your article. Also, defacing a book is a big no-no among well read people, even when your beliefs collide with the content.
Personally I expected more from a Psycology Today article, for example, spell checking. I was really into your ideas but while going through the article I begin to ask myself from whom am I getting advice. I find this paper intriguing to say the least. I do however have to point out a few minor discrepancies in your scenario. You take a very generalised view on the subject matter.
I will agree that we do pair off and surrender to our base animal instincts although you have failed to take circumstance into consideration. What if the girl had no family to consider? What if the young man didn't have a job?garfiroretep.gq/851.php
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So many factors are missing. Into each situation 'love' is different. Falling out of love is possible no matter what the circumstance yet you cannot define love or measure how much or little you have in any given time. Scenario 1 - A girl in her early 20's has a friend who she has a lot in common with. They have been friends for 3 years and often discuss reading and music. The girl has no family and has an old fashioned mind set. She prefers old music, films, literature and enjoys arguing vividly about these subjects. Her friend is a man in his late 40's.
She starts to fall in love with him after 2 years of knowing him and things take off and the relationship holds. Although both work neither is plagued by long hours or never seeing one another. Scenario 2 - A middle aged man of 40 finds a middle aged woman of They both work and have children from past relationships. They met through working together and often joked with one another.
They soon start to date and enjoy each others company even with the children persistently want 'mum and dad' back together instead of this new relationship. I could think of a thousand other scenarios that don't show whining and moaning about long hours and 'I miss you' or 'text me all the time' teenage angst! Yes life can get in the way of relationships taking off and we have the ability to fall in love repeatedly but no feeling of 'love' is ever the same.
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I admire this article and enjoyed reading it. I just think generalisations are too much apparent in today's society. People tend to forget that other factors are always involved. It's hard to define reasons why people fall in love and just as hard to say why some relationships last and some don't. But I think 2 factors are most important: timing and compatibility. I was just in a 3 month relationship where I got involved with someone who was initially way more into me than I was them.
Then suddenly our roles completely switched. I fell deeply in love with her and she deiced to make a "practical" decision to terminate her feelings for me. She wasn't ready for the leap she took and I was very ready for the vast ocean I could see us swimming in together for many years to come. She had just been hurt and needed time to regain her sense of autonomy and self-worth and I had been alone for several years making certain I had mine.
Two people very well suited to each other, with many many similar interests, compatible personalities, and deep attraction.
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But the timing was just way off. If I had waited until I knew she was ready we almost certainly would have enjoyed many years of happiness together. But then again I might have met someone else while waiting or she would have become interested in someone else. Very complex.
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But one thing I do take issue with in the article is that love is something we experience again and again in our lives. I'm in my mid-forties and have experienced love twice. I've been in many relationships but there were only two for which I felt any deep emotions or true kinship. Both of those ended fairly quickly 1 in my 20's within 3 years, 1 in my mid 40's for 3 months so I have no idea what the longterm relationship would have been like.
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When patients are offered advice, why do they tend not to take it? Back Psychology Today. Back Find a Therapist. And I didn't care what went on behind others' closed doors. But I also didn't believe that a gay man would ever be attracted to a straight woman, and I was naive—too naive to see why a homosexual man would marry and spend years lying to his wife, his friends, his family and himself. I was a year-old college freshman in Kentucky when I met Chris. He was 22, a senior and a talented musician who could sing and play brass, keyboards and woodwinds. I'd never had a boyfriend before, and I felt incredibly flattered when this popular, good-looking guy asked me out.
I was also pleased that we had a similar religious upbringing. I grew up going to a Methodist church, and I've always had a strong Christian faith. Chris's father was a Southern Baptist minister who preached fire and brimstone, and Chris was taught that being gay was the ultimate sin—an absolute sentence to hell. Two unusual things happened on our first date. Then, after he kissed me good-night, he shocked me again, saying, "No matter what you hear, I'm not gay. But in the world we lived in, people often claimed a guy was gay if he wasn't a jock or really macho, so I didn't want to judge someone because of who his friends were and what he did.
I decided to take Chris at his word. Besides, he'd taken a girl—me—out on a date, so how could he be gay? We immediately started seeing each other exclusively. I thought it was a storybook romance for nine months—until Chris abruptly said, "I can't do this anymore. A few weeks later, over the holidays, we met to talk.
We obviously still had feelings for each other, and without explaining why he'd split up with me, Chris declared, "If we're going to be together, let's make it official: Will you marry me? It was a dream come true. Of course, I could have asked more questions, but I convinced myself that Chris had gotten cold feet because we had become serious so quickly.
I also had a stubborn streak, which I practiced as a child and maintained throughout our marriage. I was determined to make our relationship work. I wanted to show Chris that I would stick with him through everything. I didn't believe in premarital sex, but once we were engaged I went on the Pill and told Chris I thought we should make love.
He refused, explaining that he respected me too much and that sex had ruined his previous relationships. Frustrated, I kept reminding myself that, as he said, "We will have the rest of our life together. This pronouncement made me feel more secure, but I shouldn't have ignored my nagging intuition that something was seriously wrong. I was a year-old virgin on our wedding day and a disappointed bride when Chris couldn't get an erection that night. I retreated to my side of the bed and cried myself to sleep, wondering, Is this what our life together will be like? The next morning, we decided to start our marriage on the right foot—by going to church.
We had sex that afternoon. It wasn't as passionate as I'd hoped, but I convinced myself yet again it would all be fine. Chris had won a prestigious position in a military band, and we moved to the Washington, D. After Chris's boot camp, we settled in as newlyweds, but we never achieved the "happy couple" life I had envisioned. We rarely spent time alone together because Chris preferred to have dinner parties, go to parties or play cards with friends.
I returned to school, and he had rehearsals, and we were with other band members and their wives on most of our weekends. I missed the intimacy I was certain other married couples had. I also expended a lot of energy trying to keep Chris interested in sex. After we got married, I wanted to have sex every day, but he told me I was a nymphomaniac. I learned to do whatever I had to do to make it happen, because sex reassured me that I was loved and wanted.
We probably had sex three or four times a week, and I felt as if I was constantly pressing for it. In Brokeback Mountain , there's a scene when Ennis flips his wife over on her stomach when they have sex. I got very emotional when I watched that because it was the position Chris and I often used for intercourse. Even though it wasn't as physically or emotionally satisfying to me, it was as intimate as we were going to get—and I wanted children.
Questions about Chris's sexual preference didn't disappear. At a party with his work friends, I got into an argument with a woman who'd been drinking, and she said, out of the blue, "Well, at least my husband's not gay. Later that evening, when I told Chris what happened, he reminded me that he'd always been teased about being gay, but he assured me, "It's not true. I defended him to others, but our marriage was often tense. He toured with the band, and when he came home, he'd sometimes stay out all night without telling me where he'd gone.
Assuming he was having an affair with a woman, and feeling insecure and unattractive in the middle of my third pregnancy, I became hyperinterrogatory and angry. It didn't help: Chris became even more distant, and he started drinking heavily. It's easy to say I should have left him, but the choice wasn't so simple. We had virtually no savings, and I couldn't afford to take the children and raise them on my own. I also still believed that the marriage could weather such trials, in part because he was such a good father. He took us camping, played with the children, planned holiday celebrations and even baked the kids' birthday cakes.
Chris was percent better at parenting than my own father, and I got used to the idea that my fulfillment could come from the family rather than the marriage. That thin fantasy crumbled on my oldest son's third birthday, well before my chlamydia diagnosis. That day, I caught Chris hiding cash in a desk drawer. What is the money for? He became defensive and announced, "I haven't gone to bed with anybody, but I've been going to gay bars.
As the puzzling pieces of our marriage flashed through my mind—the lack of physical affection, his preferred position for sexual intercourse, his disinterest in spending couple time with me—I started sobbing and asked, "Are we getting a divorce? Are we going to counseling? Is this something you're going to pursue? I desperately wanted to believe him. He agreed to go to counseling, but we had to pay in cash and keep it quiet because of the U.
If anyone found out that Chris was gay, he could be fired. As usual, I didn't dwell on my emotions; I focused more on my family's well-being than on what the future held. You might wonder why Chris couldn't accept his homosexuality, but the sin factor was ingrained in him at an early age.
Being gay would not only endanger his job and family life, it could also cost him his relationship with his parents, his church and God. Chris feared that coming out would invalidate him as a human being—and might even send him to hell. Our therapist doubted the marriage could survive, yet I was dedicated to our union if Chris was determined not to be gay.
The therapist told Chris that he'd have to stop going to gay bars, and we tried, again, to start afresh. I was soon pregnant with our fourth child, and we were living as if we were Ward and June Cleaver. Then came my fateful visit to the obstetrician and Chris's confession. I was officially done with the marriage, but we maintained the facade of a normal family while we waited for our divorce to go through. I took off my wedding ring but blamed it on swelling from pregnancy. I focused my attention on caring for our children, even though I felt as if I were dying inside, questioning my self-worth, my intelligence as well as my existence.
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